Umair Haque suggests why:
Struggle will turn you into you. The you that you were meant to be, at your truest, deepest, noblest. There are great arts in living; and there are small arts. The small arts are the ones we’re taught: time management, communication, discipline, and the like. But the great arts? The great arts are different—not just in impact, but in origin. Empathy, inspiration, courage, wisdom, compassion, honesty, resourcefulness, creativity. These are the things that separate a truly great life from a mediocre one. The paradox is this. The great arts cannot be taught—and yet they must be learned. So how do we master them? When we stand atop our mountains. It is struggle that teaches us how to be ourselves. For the truth is that only you, standing naked, as you truly are, can climb your mountain.
[T]he act of jumping into a discussion with demands for evidence and answers to questions.
James Murph, who explains Why Sealioning Is Bad, at least when it signals bad faith.
The familiar sequence is this:
1. People did something stupid.
2. Those people self-identify as feminists or I label them as feminists.
3. Feminists are stupid.
4. [A week later] Feminists say we should do xyz. But remember how stupid feminists are? Extremely stupid. Ha ha. So clearly we shouldn’t do xyz.
You could plug anything into that to replace “feminists” and recognize it as common discourse. It’s nonsense. It distorts the way we interpret things: it makes our focus not “what’s a reasonable interpretation of this comment/incident” but “how can this comment/incident be of use to me.”
But it’s so seductive and fun. That’s why we do it.
Source: Shirts And Shirtiness | Popehat.